Who are you? 

Romans 3:23

Genesis 1:26-27

Genesis 2:15-17

1 Corinthians 6:9-10

What does God desire?

The goal is being sexually abstinent and fleeing lustful desires in singleness while fighting for innocence and purity, then being sexually and emotionally faithful to your spouse of the opposite sex while continuing to flee lustful desires in the Covenant of marriage.

John 3:16

Romans 5:8

How have you allowed what you do to attach itself to your identity?  

What sin have you been justifying by claiming it as part of your identity?